Hey guys (and girls) can i quickly ask for some advice? Its about this girl who broke up with her ex a while back (i'd say a month or so) and i'm trying to comfort her. I've only known her for a few weeks, as we share both free periods in school. She broke up with her ex, and then i came along and seemed to help. She was all sad and quiet whenever she was hanging out with me and some of my friends. One day she just walked out of our group of people and seemed kind of angry. Since i seemed to be her only close guy friend, i decided to go find her. I found sitting near the lockers by herself, looking at the school yearbook. I said hello and she said that i should sit down. I sat down next to her, simply talking and told her that i'm here if she wants to talk about it. She then said that our group of friends are all about themselves, and she isn't the best of friends with one of our mutual friends, as she still hangs out with her ex. We were soon looking through the yearbook together, sitting quietly, only to comment on a picture or two. I felt like that silence wasn't awkward, which was a good thing. She then had to leave and i said goodbye, gave her a hug, and she left. I got her number the next day, and have been texting her off and on throughout the day. Now here is my question, and why i made this thread. Whenever i talk to her via text, the conversation only lasts about 3 or 4 texts, and ends really quickly. I usually have something to talk about. But she never contributes to the conversation, and it soon ends abruptly. Now-a-days (its been a few since i've even said hi to her..) i'm talking to her, and then all of a sudden she stops responding, without a reason. How do you keep a conversation going if the other person won't respond to you, or doesn't contribute to the conversation?? Oh, one last thing. If you were to ask someone out, should you become their friend first, THEN ask them out, or flat out ask 'em out first, THEN get to know them? Sorry for a such long (and off topic) thread. If you have read all of that, would you mind to give me some advice? THANKS! -RJ-
Ok, maybe I'm Not correct here but from the way you've phrased it she doesn't want to talk to you. Also I'd advise asking her out straight up, because it seems you've known eachother for some time. But yeah, I don't think she's interested if you try and talk to her and she doesn't respond.P
Yup she doesnt want you and dont waste your time shes probably still talking or going out with the ex and if your trying to keep a conversation and they wont respond its because they are not interested. friends before lovers depends on the situation its not always the same for everyone -Love Doctor
Thanks guys for the help. (And i assume you two are guys... RocketMAN. Uhm...EMT...idk. no offense!) Now i SHOULD tell in person, right? So it shows that i'm brave or something like that?
She seems kind of like an aspie... You should ask her if she has Aspergers, if you do I could probably help alot more. It doesn't seem like she doesn't want you she just doesn't know how to socialize. Seriously she sounds like she has Aspergers (I have it)
If a girl likes you, she will call,text you all the time and will always be around to respond/listen out of admiration for you more than anything. Honestly, it sounds like she isn't interested in you, but she thinks your alright to chat with quickly here and there when she's bored. Forget her as far as any relationship goes, it sounds like she doesn't even want to be friends beyond a chat/say hi here and there level.
My two cents...and this applies to dates as well... If the other person isn't asking questions or responding accordingly, then she's not engaged nor interested. A person who is interested in you will want to talk to you and ask you questions about you. If she's not, then the chance for a relationship or anything meaningful is slim. Also, let me impart some elder wisdom. Trust your gut. When I look back on relationships or acquaintances I thought had potential for more, I realize that my gut usually told me everything I needed to know. Unfortunately, most of the time I didn't listen to it and learned the hard way. Your instincts more often than not is your best guide. Now, move on grasshopper.
All she wants is a friend. Honestly, if you want some tang later on in life, you need to let her know you can be a friend first. Girls are much more attracted to guys that other girls can trust. It'll go a long way later in life when the girl at the bar is wondering whether you're a good guy or just trying to steal the pootie.
aight listen to me I know how this works what you do: first thing when you talk to her, compliment her tell her she is pretty or that you like her eyes or hair. Then you tell her you like her or you ask her how she feels about you and what she is feeling straight up. Be understanding make her comfortable but be careful not to make her think your gay no offense I know your not but still and this might help if you really like her buy her something thoughtful that she would like nothing huge though
If you like her, go and tell her. If she says no, you'll get over faster. Sometimes when you like someone, you just have to say it. It doesn't mean that she is going to say yes. At least, you'll stop thinking about it and move on. When you say it to her, pretend to be very sure.
Get her drunk and get with her and stop being the friend. You want out of the friend zone, quit looking so needy. Don't text her, don't call her. Make her come to you than blow her off, in a nice way. Girls like to be treated like crap than you can be nice again after you reel her in. Hang out with some other girls around her, show her your wanted by other females.
It's horrible but true, I didn't get the girl I wanted until another girl started liking me and she got jealous and I pretended I was interested in the other girl, even though I wasn't.
Haha, that seems so stupid, but most likely true. And your Sig is pretty funny, what context is that in?
